So, it's been a while, but there have been so many things going on that I couldn't even sit down and process it. So, as some of you know we've had munchkin almost full now, since Jelly (what we call her mother) can't "handle" her daughter. We've had her full time minus two weekends out of the month where she will visit Jelly.
Recently Jelly stated that she had a place to live etc and that she was taking Munchkin on again on a week by week basis. This point I had anxiety issues because when Munchkin goes to Jellies she comes back with this horrible attitude and hates the world and I am at the top of her hate list. Well, when we got munchkin back we realized barely any of her homework was done, and the ones that were completed weren't spelled properly etc. I know, I know sounds crazy but Munchkin goes to a very top rated school and they expect the best. This shows to me that Jelly doesn't help her with her homework or go over her homework at all. Then she's been coming back with bruises that look like someone has pinched her. I'm not sure what to do about this. So I did what any responsible adult would do. I called them in and made them known to the state.
Lumberjack and I decided to take more action on the matter. We filed for full custody. We are not sure how this is going to work, or if it is. We filed once before but were turned down which is crazy to me considering Jelly is unstable, and doesn't have a proper home, well no home at all right now. I just don't know what I should or shouldn't do. We keep everything the same at our house because consistency is key with it comes to munchkin!
The major issue is I'm not sure how to handle her attitude, her constantly fighting me,and her the anger. I try to just smother it with love, but how long does that last? To make things feel more at home, and also to curb my craving for having a child we decided to get a dog! She's sweet and lovable and follows me and lumberjack everywhere! Due to Munchkins anger issues in the past I'm concerned about her with the sweetness. She's hurt other dogs in the past so I'm not sure how this will go but I'm hoping for the best and to learn some responsibility and how to care and love for another being.
We are just trying to find our groove as a family but all these monkey wrenches keep getting thrown in. I wish things would just be easy for our family and every-time things are going well, something happens and then we have larger problems down the road.
The bigger issue that we end up with is that Munchkin believes that Jellies behavior is normal, and I don't know how to explain to her that NO, NO it is not normal for your mother to act that way towards you, to behave that way and to leave you! I would never leave you!! Ever! I love you, and want to be around you and I miss you when you are gone! Why would your mother leave, or move, or try to not be around you and be so selfish! My thought everyday is always about my family.
How can someone be so careless, and selfish that their thoughts and actions are only about themselves and never about their family or loved ones. I don't understand how someone can be called a mother or a parent and yet, behave that way.
I have a sweet and wonderful sister who wants nothing more than to be a mother, but can she? No, due to her heart defect she can no longer have children, bear children etc. Yet here is this miserable cretin who has a child that doesn't want it, and only wants the child support. She makes me sick. (End rant)
Sorry, I just needed an outlet to let that go. Its hard to hold all of that in and not talk to it about anyone, I don't want to upset Lumberjack about it, and I sure can't talk to Munchkin since she's little.
Thank you again for listening, reading, or just browsing by.
